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A lot of us girls have had that one crush that when he walks by you get butterflies. We’ve been there before. Your heart starts beating super fast when he comes in the lunchroom or the classroom. Then you send your best friend to ask if he likes you and it seems like forever before she gets back with the news. Then when she finally comes back and your heart feels like its going to beat out of your chest to the next century. Finally, she comes to you with a blank face and says, “He said no.” Your heart sinks and you start thinking, “Why doesn’t he like me? Did I do something crazy? Am I ugly?” etc.
You are not alone. There are so many girls that face this same issue in every school, town, country, and generation. It’s just like any other situation, it happens to everyone. I guess you’re probably thinking if we will go ahead and get to the point already.
Well, guys and girls can both be difficult to understand especially when it comes to understanding each other. Girls are known to be more expressive and guys are more quiet when it comes to expressing how they feel, well mostly. The point is you may be in that same situation when you’ve been talking to this guy and thought he for sure liked you back right? You both had a billion and one conversations about life. You both share a lot of the same interests and a lot of your memories with him match up with that blog you read to see if he likes you. Everything aligned with each other and you’re trying to figure out where did you go wrong.
Here’s something that we want you to know. You didn’t do anything wrong. You are not ugly and you are really awesome. It could be a no for a variety of reasons. One could be that he’s not into anyone right now maybe he wants to focus on school. Two, he might see you as just a friend. There are a lot times that guys get into relationships with certain types of girls and talk with others. That doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong it just means that you are not the type for him. On the other hand, you might just be that one friend that he looks to as his sister. There’s nothing wrong with that it just means you are both on great casual terms.
All this means is that its not about how you look, what you’ve done, or should’ve done. It’s all about what he thinks of your friendship and that’s okay. It’s okay if he doesn’t like you back. Don’t use this as validation to see if you are attractive or perfect for him. It’s okay. And there’s probably another awesome guy out there that likes you but you don’t even realize it.
Don’t take moments like those to heart and please remember its normal. It’s actually part of growing up. You will experience moments of rejection from the one you like, you will have heartbreaks, and awesome times as well. It’s all part of experiencing the wonderful journey of life.