“Girl, you are being so dramatic right now!”
“Child please, suck it up and get over it!”
If only people knew how and what those with anxiety go through. They would understand that it’s not something that you “suck up” and get going. Sometimes it causes you to stop in your tracks. Or sometimes it triggers so many emotions that it brings you to tears. If only they could walk in your shoes.
Anxiety has gained a lot of attention over the past two decades. However, there are still a lot of misconceptions regarding this topic. Many people believe that anxiety only stems from a major event like 9/11, an abrupt death, or anything that would trigger these emotional events. Although it may seem this way, anxiety can come for whatever reason. There doesn’t have to be one specific purpose. For this reason, it can dramatically transform one’s life. Sometimes anxiety can have a mind of its own. So, we would like to share some tips for you to keep in mind when it comes to overcoming this issue.
Keep reminding yourself of God’s word and your identity in Him.
Speaking from experience, it is easy to get lost in the pitfalls of anxiety. There’s a reason why depression is linked to anxiety. There are a lot of people who have both. Speaking out loud forces you to have control of those inner thoughts. One thing you can do is talk to yourself (no it won’t make you crazy). Those negative thoughts are only the devil trying to hold you back. Show him that you are so much more than what he says. So start by speaking positive things to yourself.
“You are amazing and you can get through this.”
“Yes, I can do this.”
“Take your time and take it slow.”
“I’m just going to take it one step at a time.”
Also, read your bible and write down the scriptures that really touch your heart. Copy them on post its and index cards. Tape them on your walls and mirrors. Keep speaking these scriptures and positive affirmations to yourself. Soon you will discover that you have the power and confidence to speak and declare great things.
Figure out the source of the problem/anxiety.
Think about your past, childhood, adolescent years, etc. Keep a journal of your emotions and feelings as you go through these different events. Ask yourself the following questions:
What triggers these emotions? What do you think about?
Are these emotions linked to any fears?
Do they stem from a childhood experience?
What experience did you have that could cause them?
Focus on the key aspects to categorize these issues. If you struggle with anxiety when it comes to death. Then put these emotions and events in the death category. If you struggle with PTSD or flashbacks, put these journal topics in a separate category. Organize your thoughts and take your time documenting them. Also, it’s okay to cry as your journal your emotions. Write down how you feel and what you are experiencing.
This is not a permanent problem. You can get through it.
Yes, it may feel that your anxiety or depression will never go away. Yes, it is tough to face and get through. Remember, that this is not a permanent problem. There are several methods, tips, and things you can do to either conquer this issue or reduce it dramatically. You are more than your problem. You can get through it. Most of all, you will get through it.
Continue to work on it with baby steps.
As you embark on conquering this issue, do different things to force you to push past this issue. If you have anxiety when it comes to driving, drive one or two miles from the house and back. Slowly ease into the routine of triggering these emotional events whether they are panic attacks, flashbacks, etc. to work through them. You don’t want to just experience them but discover what works to conquer them. As you create your routine, you will discover that these issues will turn into minor setbacks that you have power over. You will not see the results overnight but keep practicing on your routine and it will soon become easier to get through them.
Also, don’t be afraid to seek out counsel from either a friend, family member, or professional. If you find that your anxiety, depression, or panic attacks are getting out of hand, find someone that is willing to help. You never have to face this alone.
I (Ariel) experience anxiety when it came to learning how to drive. My fear and anxiety for driving just came randomly. I quickly learned that I didn’t even want to drive. I never had a dramatic experience with accidents, nightmares, or anything. It just occurred the older I became. I soon discovered that driving was a symbol of independence. Since I am the youngest of my family, I second guessed everything out of not trusting myself and my own independence. The more I drove, the more my anxiety decreased. Although I still have it when it comes to driving, I’ve learned how to have control over my fears and panic attacks. It just takes time, prayer, effort, and positive affirmations. The issue may still be there, but you will learn to take control of the issue instead of it taking control of you!
Topic of the Week Inspiration:
This week’s topic of the week is in honor of Katie, from “A Cousin’s Prayer.” This book was our book of the month for March. Katie struggled with panic attacks, anxiety, and depression following an accident that killed her boyfriend and injured two of her friends. After discussing her anxiety with a friend, Katie soon discovered that she was not alone. Also, constant prying from her parents led to her learning how to conquer the issue from a professional therapist. After taking routine baby steps, she was able to take control of her anxiety.