To the Discouraged Dreamer….

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You wake up to the sun shining through the windows of your bedroom. You slowly rise thanking the Lord for another day, but the misery still takes over your heart as another day rises and you are still in the place that you are in.

You look at the vision board you’ve worked on over the years with scriptures, pictures, and a list of goals you planned for yourself. You sigh as you see that these items on your list are just that, items that have never come to reality.

Whether you thought your business would have taken off, you would have had that dream job, or a nicer car by now, we completely understand. It’s challenging to keep going when you know that you didn’t plan for your life to be like this. People keep telling you that it will get better but the more you move, the more things fall apart. You hold on to the things you have left but quickly realize that they are falling through the cracks of your fingers like sand. What do you do?

You don’t believe in yourself or your goals anymore. What’s the point?

Giving up is so very easy and it’s especially easy when it seems like everyone around you reached their gold winning Olympic moment. While you are scrolling through Facebook congratulating them on the new jobs, engagements, houses, and little ones, you’re stuck making the last attempt of picking up the broken pieces of your life.

The more time progresses, the more your heart sinks.

This blog is not like everyone’s advice when they say, “It will be okay.” Yeah that may seem strange to say but we are taking a different approach to this topic.

Hope can be such a simple yet complex thing. You have hope when you are feeling down and it’s so easy when you have no other choice. On the other hand, it changes as you wonder why you’re not seeing the manifestations of your work and prayers. This is how hope can turn out to be so…hard.

You slowly feel like hope becomes the enemy because every time you have hope, it slaps you in the face as time passes. What should you believe?

How should you feel?

(You can listen to this song as you finish this blog)

The one poem that comes to mind is “Harlem” by Langston Hughes. The first line always catches the reader when Hughes states, “What happens to a dream deferred? Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun?”

Don’t let your dream(s) die!!! Never let them fall by the wayside and you look back wondering what your life would have been like if you would have achieved them. Don’t sing the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” song for the rest your life.

It’s okay to modify your dream. It’s okay to put them on hold for a while. It’s okay to rearrange them but please don’t let them die. Dreams are meant to live and they are meant to come true. You can do this. It just takes work, sacrifices, money, time, and a whole lot of effort. Any Olympic gold medalist can tell you that there were a lot of things they had to put aside to ensure their place on the team. But if you want it bad enough you will fight hard for it. Dreams take days, months, and years to come to pass but no dream is impossible. Think of Luke 1:37 “For with God nothing shall be impossible.”

At the end of the day, don’t forget that you are in charge of your life. It is up to you to make things happen. As long as you continue to put God first in everything you do, you can do anything and He will direct you. Take advantage of opportunities. Live your life. Most of all, DON’T give up. It’s so hard right now but the more you keep going the closer you are to your dream. Remember the dream is yours!

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Olympic Dreams Start with Small Habits

Kristen Hogrefe

I always get excited about the Olympics, but this year, I’m especially eager in light of my recent ski trip. With my new perspective on snow sports, I know I’ll have a greater respect for winter Olympians and their skills.

The games starting this week highlight the athletes’ best performances, but they don’t reveal the countless hours and early mornings that have led up to the moment. These athletes had to be intentional every day to take the steps and make the sacrifices necessary to reach this opportunity.

You and I may never participate in the Olympic games, but we do have dreams God’s planted in our hearts. What habits do we need to cultivate in order to reach them?

#1: Desire God more

Wait a minute, Kristen. I thought you were going to talk about how we can achieve our goals?

That’s right. Who better to teach us and train…

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Blog Feature “4 Dating Rules I Never Learned”

No one taught me how to date. Odds are, no one’s taught you, either. At some point, my parents deemed me old enough to hang out with friends and to have boyfriends, and that was that. (I’m pretty sure no one taught them how to date, either.) A couple years ago, I met the […]

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Diamond in the Spotlight-BHM

We would like to highlight Jessye Norman as the first Diamond in the Spotlight in celebration of Black History Month.

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Authentic, classy, beautiful -three words that describe the stage presence of Jessye Norman, a world renowned American opera singer from the small town of Augusta, Ga. Yes, right in our own backyard. Ms. Norman was born Sept. 15, 1945. In a 2014 interview at the Chicago Humanities Festival, the opera singer discussed her life story and book, “Stand Up Straight and Sing.” She recalls holding a handheld radio to her ear as she listened to her favorite opera singers every weekend as a child.

Ms. Norman has completed her education through some of the nation’s most prestigious institutions. Such schools including Howard University where she received a music scholarship at the age of 16 and the Peabody Conservatory. Jessye Norman is fluent in various languages including Italian and French as she believes that one should never sing in a language they don’t know. Ms. Norman has traveled around the world where she has gained a variety of life and career experiences she often mentions during her interviews.

Overtime, Jessye Norman has accumulated various awards and honors including the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award, her place in the Georgia Music Hall of Fame, and the National Medal of Arts from President Obama. Although these are only a few of her extensive list of work and accomplishments, Jessye Norman has made a mark in the world of opera through her voice. Because of Ms. Norman’s achievements, the Jessye Norman School of the Arts was constructed to aide disadvantaged youth by shaping their crafts in various areas of the arts.

She has definitely earned her spot in Be A Girl Like Me! Inc.’s Diamond in the Spotlight list. Every girl and woman can look at Ms. Norman’s career and character and become inspired by the wonderful work she has done!

Top 8 Confidence Boosting Songs for Women

Teenage girls and women struggle the most when it comes to confidence because we are constantly going through different periods of change. This includes the transition into womanhood, motherhood, etc. It can be difficult especially when life gets in the way to maintain our confidence especially in our capabilities and appearance. So this is our list of favorite confidence boosting songs for women!!

Just the Way You Are by Bruno Mars

I Was Here by Beyonce

Overcomer by Mandisa

Stronger by Mandisa

He Knows My Name by Francesca Battisstelli

Girl on Fire by Alicia Keys

Superwoman by Alicia Keys

Rise Up by Audra Day





Top 8 Confidence Boosting Songs for Girlz

From Jamie Grace to Selena Gomez and Mandisa, there are plenty of confidence boosting songs for young girls to enjoy during their dark days. Yes we will admit, being confident is hard! You will not feel like your best self every day that’s why we wanted to make this post especially for you! Are you ready? Start scrolling baby!!!

  1. Girl in the Mirror by Sophia Grace

2. Every Bit of Lovely by Jamie Grace

3. Do Life Big by Jamie Grace

4. Free to Be Me by Francesca Battistelli

5. Gold by Britt Nicole

6. Who Says by Selena Gomez

7. 1 Girl Nation by 1 Girl Nation

8. Girlz by L2M

Sharing Your Insecurities

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Every day you go about your life thinking the way you think and acting the way you do not realizing how you value yourself. For instance, for years I tore myself down in the hopes of avoiding the hurt and pain of hearing it from someone else. Over time, I thought that this would help me deal with my insecurities but failed to realize the damage it would cause in the future. I found myself doing this in middle school. I started making comments about my appearance like my teeth, hair, and skin complexion by thinking to myself, “If I say what they’re thinking, it won’t be as bad if they agree instead of them bringing it up first.” This caused tremendous damage to my self-esteem as a preteen and teenage girl. As an adult, I’m still trying to recover from the damage I’ve done to myself. That’s so messed up right!?! I know.

As an adult, I’ve discovered the importance of sharing my insecurities with my sister or at least a very close friend. I shouldn’t validate negative thoughts to protect my confidence. I should say and think positive thoughts to build my confidence.  I remember sharing with my sister how I said or thought things to beat people to the punch and she replied, “You’re creating a defense mechanism out of those things when they are not even true!” I thought to myself, “OMG she’s so right!”

Sometimes what we may think make sense are actually building blocks of self destruction. So, be honest and talk. I know you don’t want everyone to know your business. Your hidden secrets are just that. But in reality, what you may think of as something to be insecure about may be what others think is so awesome and beautiful about you.

Listen to one of our favorite songs while you finish reading this blog! Remember you’re lovely!!

Anywho LOL..

Find friends that will build you up instead of tearing you down. So, even during those hard days, you will have friends that will share encouraging words and compliment you. When they do, DON’T SHOOT THEIR ENCOURAGING WORDS! Embrace them instead.

We as girls and women always slam each others positivity but that’s not good for us, our confidence, or our relationships. Take the comments with a smile on your face. Repeat them to yourself and see how much it will help. Being a confident woman or girl is hard. You will not be confident every single day, but you can work on it. Take more selfies, smile more, do your hair, dress up and see how awesome you feel after doing those things.

You have every right to be a confident, happy, person. Speak more positive things to yourself and do more for yourself. Things such as spa days, bubble baths, hair and nail salon visits can do wonders to your confidence as well. Not only is it a great reason to get out of the house but also surround yourself with more positive and supportive people. And besides, you deserve it! We think you do!!!

New Episodes Coming February!

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Thank You Dr. King!!

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Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that you wanted for yourself and your family became the American dream for so many families. I could only imagine what it was like to work so hard with so many restrictions.

Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that changed lives once you made the “I have a dream” speech. The speech that has given me chills ever since I was a little girl. The speech that connected me to what my family dreamed of not too long ago.

Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that lived on for so many decades as people fought to have this dream brought to reality. This was shown when President Obama became the nation’s 44th president. It showed us that this dream is part of the reality of not only African American history, but American history as a whole.

Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that so many African Americans wished to see, but me and so many others live every day and take for granted. What was once a dying wish is something that so many of us forget and overlook too often.

Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that unveiled a list of things that needed to be done to ensure that this nation would enforce equality.

Thank you Dr. King for the dream. The dream that changed…everything.