To the Bestie,
Don’t be afraid to communicate how you feel
When it comes to outside relationships interfering with you and your bestie’s relationships, it can first feel awkward and hard to communicate how you feel. First of all, it is normal to feel jealous, left out, and ignored. It’s okay to feel that way. Have you heard of the saying “It’s not about the action, but about your reaction that makes a difference?” Well it’s something like that. Either way, we want you to understand that it’s okay to feel bad when you see that your best friend has someone and is on cloud nine. It’s okay if you feel that she’s spending more time with her boo than you. It’s okay to miss your buddy. IT’S ALL NORMAL AND PART OF GROWING UP!!
At the end of the day, we want you to understand the importance of communication especially with your bestie. Talk to them and tell them how you feel. If you feel that your bestie has changed significantly, that’s okay as well. Find a good time to sit down and talk with them about your feelings. We will forewarn you that some may take it well and understand and some may not. It depends on the person and how they feel and think at that time. All that matters is that you communicated how you feel. And most of all, when they respond, be open to hearing their side as well. Don’t just say how you feel and block out their feelings. And work along with them and hopefully they will do the same. If not, just give them a little space and try again later. Remember it depends on you and your best friend. Not all friendships are the same when it comes to this issue.
Don’t take it to heart
This is very important because there are a lot of friendships that are never the same because of a bff getting a bf and there’s no communication or lack of communication. “She’s just jealous or she doesn’t understand how I feel.” When you’re growing up, there are a lot of hormones and emotions that get in the way. Then on top of that you have rumors, social media, school, and other friends that may get in the way. So, yes it can be easy to take everything to heart including losing your bff to a new bf. It does take time to get used to this routine, but you can try working with your best friend. Just understand that hanging out everyday may not be the new norm. Work with them and meet them you where you are. It will be okay.
To the bestie with the boo:
It’s Okay to Spend Time with your Boo
You’re in a relationship so it is perfectly normal to spend time with your boo and want to spend time with him. You only have one life to live and that includes having fun and making memories in your relationships, with your boyfriend, and with your family. Maybe he makes you laugh, helps you get out of your shell, or knows the perfect words to make you feel better on a rainy day. It is perfectly understandable to feel head over hills for him. We perfectly understand.
Learn to balance
Although spending time with your boo is normal, learn the value of balance. This is done by going out with your friends on Friday and spending time with your boo on Saturday. Overextending yourself can be a lot especially when you’re in school and we understand. Just learn and pay attention to how your are spending time with your boo. If you are talking about your boo all day, texting him all day, seeing him everyday after school, forgetting about your homeworking, and failing to spend time with your family and friends, this is for you. You are spending a little too much time and need to start balancing your time and relationships. You don’t want to catch yourself failing all of your classes and not having anyone to talk to because your life has revolved around your significant other for past two months. Balance is the key. This takes time to adjust to and it will not come overnight. As long as you are aware that you need to start balancing things out, that’s all that matters.
At the end of the day, we want what is best for the both of you. We are sure that you both have a great friendship full of memories, laughter, and fun beyond one’s wildest imaginations. We hope that the both of you were able to take something from this blog and vlog! Remember that you are mega awesome and most of all, a child of the wonderful Creator! #BeAGirlLikeMe #BestieHasaBoyfriend #Advice #Chattinwiththegirlz